Tamil interview

how to guard your reputation

There are about 6 ways in which people normally do not do justice to their full potential.
these are ( these are traps which will diminish you if you do not follow moderation and level headedness  )
Live life fully , but take care of the following danger areas 

1.     Money

We need money in life to fulfil our necessities,  basic and other wise. But, for some people, money is the only important thing in life and they will do anything for money. Money is not worth making compromises sometimes. Use your judgement

2.     Flattery / fame

There are many people for whom flattery is an addiction. They crave flattery and refuse to see reality, Look at why the other person should flatter you. What does that person get? 

Some people do anything for gaining fame (or notoriety ) later they  regret it

3.     Food

Give good food and some people will do anything for that. Yes, food is important in life. And eating is one of the most unavoidable (selfish) things we have to do in order to survive and nurture the body . That does not mean that we do anything in order to eat . Then we are not human beings endowed with the faculty of discrimination, we become animals

4.     Wine

Nowadays this is very common in our country, it is not wrong but if you go to extremes then it is wrong (both for health and reputation )

5.     Illicit relationships and affairs

Many are prey to this temptation; many have fallen from high places because of this. Do not overestimate your self-control in this matter. Always be extra cautious and keep as much way from this as possible. Make doubly sure that you are safe from this temptation, Do not allow any justification to come in (e g  I did this because my wife is nagging me and is short tempered/ my husband is a chauvinist and the other person genuinely respects me  etc )

Relationship between opposite sexes is natural and there are limits , socially sanctioned,  time tested ways to have them. Do not cross those limits

6.     Talking

Keep your talking to the bare minimum. Else you will fall in reputation within days. The mobile phone is a big hazard in this matter (social media post, without moderation, is also another form of this error) . I know of many marriage engagements getting broken off , due to the mobile phone

Have a virtual check post between your brain and your tongue. Always talk less. Communicate in a manner appropriate to the place, time, person, and situation.

I wish you a fulfilling life