Insights of a Wise Young Man

Insights of a Wise Young Man

I had the good fortune to travel for about 4 hrs. with a young man from a small town with wide practical experience. He shared the following insights

A.       About People

1. 1.   People who keep their word, are very rare.
2. 2.   People do not mind their own business, they meddle in other people’s affairs.
3. 3.   Bluffing about unknown subjects is a prevalent habit.
4. 4.   Everybody thinks , “I know everything”.
5. 5.   Realizing the real meaning of things is very rare.

B.      Politics

1.   Political parties support wrong activities of “youth wings” in order to get more cadres.

2.   Everyone gangs up to malign upcoming leaders so that they themselves can one day become leaders.

C.      General

1.   Nowadays people are so busy that they do not even look after their own affairs.

2.   Last minute frantic running around is quite normal because nobody does any preparation or homework.

3.   People believe any hearsay without verifying.

4.   Divorces happen nowadays for the flimsiest reasons.

5.   Parents unnecessarily interfere in married son’s / daughter’s life.

6.   Remote control for the above is the mobile phone

7.   Mobile phone is mostly a curse otherwise also . 

The Justifying Reason For Holding Wealth - Sage Thiruvalluvar

In Thirukkural

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The Sage Says “As the common village well stores water, for common good, the wealth of  a wise rich man,  is for the good of humanity”. 

It is not for excessive personal gratification, personal enjoyment.

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Meaning, “Before you share wealth, you have to create it” only fools will talk about redistribution of wealth, without first creating it. 

This is because all wealth is not alwaya naturally created ; some of it is definitely created and manmade.   

The trusteeship principle espoused by the Mahatma also, is a similar concept.

The fundamental of this is the world runs on LOVE, HARDWORK, COMPASSION& SACRIFICE.  There is no compulsion in this.  It is freely chosen.  This comes from the inner volition of each good man.  Both the receiver and provider gain and grow.  It is part of the “PanchamahaYagnas” the duty of every Indian.  This is the unique lesson from India.

The sage Thiruvalluvar reminds us only of this.

The Secret of Happiness , as per SAGE –Thiruvalluvar

The Secret of Happiness

SAGE –Thiruvalluvar

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The Grand Sage of South India, Thiruvalluvar says “The Greatest wealth is not to want anything.

This does not mean a situation of non-desire, it means detachment from desires. Many of us cannot find happiness if our desires are not fulfilled. Equanimity is needed. If you want something , then you are its slave.  So he says

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ÜîQ¡ ÜîQ¡ Þô¡.

“If you keep away from something, then you cannot hurt by it” [cigarette, drinks, praise etc.,] If you want it, then you will be also hurt by it.

So he says

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”Ups and downs are not uncommon in life, but retain your balance and be equanimous.” We feel  elated when something good happens and then find ourselves in the dumps when something bad occurs. Keep your heart equanimous, says the sage.

I feel there is a grand scheme of the advocates of consumerism that we forget our past,  our culture, our values, our rich treasures like Thirukkural and become mad in the crazy rush for instant gratification.

It is our duty to upgrade ourselves, but not by losing our identity or by paying mere lip service to our ancient treasures of knowledge and proven practical wisdom.

The principle above can be practiced in Food & Talk, I am  trying to do my bit here and hope to continue this effort to propagate the KURAL in the future also.

Each day I come across various manifestations of the Thirukkural as examples demonstrating the sagacityand fore sight of the great Sage Thiruvallivar.

how to make your marital partner into a "nut case "

one of my friends in a humorous mood , shared the following, I feel there is some element of truth in it
However, if we want love and happiness,we should follow the opposite 

Strategy of an Insecure Psycho Nut Case marital partner, to Drive a Spouse to the Mental Asylum!

1.    Always find fault, criticize.
2.       Always misinterpret any “good thing” to be “bad”.
3.          Always squander good ripe opportunities to be happy together (or to show love) by some silly fault finding.
4.       Be a “taker” not a “giver”.
5.    Be on the offensive always.
6.         Become upset and peeved often (and show I am feeling miserable due to you).
7.      Belittle the spouse and their family.
8.       Claim “I have sacrificed a lot for you”.
9.   Give more importance to ‘things’ rather than ‘people.’
10. Give more importance to “show” rather than “substance”.
11.    Give paramount importance to blood relations only.
12.   Be Jealous and not allow the partner to grow/develop independence and emotional freedom.
13.        Make fuss while doing any small chores also it is a great job that “it is a great job I am doing with unbearable strain”.
14.    Never show appreciation to the partner even for good things
15.      Never show gratitude to wife/husband.
16.   Not admitting to one’s own faults, even defending the faults.
17.    Not ready to adjust or compromise for anything at all.
18.       One rule for me and my side of the family(give the benefit of doubt) , another rule for you and your side of the family(always found  guilty) .
19.      Saying “I am not leaving you, only because of our children”.
20.     Speak evil of others, always.
21.     Talk too much, do not listen at all, to the partner.
22.  Try to avoid the partner’s family to the maximum, possible.
23.   Work always with a hidden agenda – do not expose your plan to wife/husband.
24.     Work on remote control or too much and constant contact with one’s parents, brothers, sisters).
25.       Accuse the partner that “ you are doing all “ the above things