training a new experience

training experience

1. the first time in my life a different type of experience occurred to me in a training I conducted for workers .
2. It was a half day class on QMS/EMS and self management.about 25 workers were there.
3. the session started at 1345hrs and there was a short tea break at1500hrs.
4. At that time another worker from outside, came in and started verbally abusing me saying I am wasting their hard earned money ,by calling to the hall 15 ladies and 10 men workers and telling them no new thing.I was almost stealing from them according to him> I should not think that nobody is there to question what I am doing.He will question me.
   
5. He was drunk.Somebody then took him outside.
6. The setup of the hall was in such a manner that any body can enter the hall without the permission of the trainer, the entrance very wide and the door kept open for air circulation.
7. after the tea break , I told the officer available that I will continue the class only if he will confirm that the troublemaker will not return
8. nobody from the participants side apologized for the unruly behavior of their colleague
9. But all of them were very attentive throughout and tried to make use of the training opportunity for their benefit.
   
10. The training got completed as per schedule without any further untoward incident
11. The officer later told me that he was not aware of the entry of the trouble maker(who has joined just after suspension) into the hall and there are some unruly elements like him in the organization(even with criminal violence cases).
    
12. I do not know what to make out of this.Any way I have gone to their company as invited by their HR head ,since he found my classes effective to bring some understanding of the subject among workers .I am glad that I could convey some good message to the group of trainees for their own benefit.
    
    

worst co passengers in trains

In my observation the worst co passengers you can have are the career politicians and the off duty Policemen/ service personnel (I agree , there are so many good people in these groups also NOT ALL ARE BAD ) while travelling in the trains.
this is in the form of

• no sense of others' privacy and maintenance of decorum
  
• too many mobile phone calls and loud speaking into the phone
• Boisterousness
  
• showing off
  
• invading your seating space
• intruding into what others are doing
• smoking and drinking (if possible )
  
• All these becomes much more when they are in groups
  

nobody stands up to them and point out what they are doing is wrong
FATE!

happiness

வேண்டாமை அன்ன விழு ச்செல்வம் ஈண்டில்லை
யாண்டும் அஃதொப்பது இல்
வள்ளுவர்

if you want to be happy , want less
that is the message of the sage valluvar.
We are nowadays battered by the relentless ads in the media that we are unhappy till we buy the next model car or TV.
Possessions do not increase happiness.They increase attachment ,increase unhappiness
Want less.possess less and be more happy.
try it for at least 2 weeks and you will understand what it means

culture

நம் மொழி , சரித்திரம் , பண்பாடு , கலாசாரம்,சிந்தனை ,இலக்கியம் ,உணர்வுகள்,எல்லாமே கடன்வாங்க பட்டவை அல்ல .முற்றிலும் நம் சொத்து
குறைகள் இருக்கலாம் , ஆனால்
அதை ஏன் வெள்ளைக்காரன் பண்பாட்டோடு
உரைத்து பார்க்க வேண்டும்? அடிமைத்தனம் அல்லவா?
கருப்பனை மிருகத்தனமாக அடக்கி வைத்து ,சிவப்பு இன்தியரை கொன்று குவித்து தன் ஆதிபத்யம் நிலை நாட்டியவனா , சில நூற்றாண்டுகள் மட்டும் சரித்ரம் உடையவனா , நமக்கு தர்மத்தை பற்றி சொல்ல வேண்டும்?
அவனுக்கு நம் நாட்டு படித்தவர் பட்டாளம், இரவு பகலாக ,சேவகம் செய்கிறது ,அவன் நாட்டில் வளம் சேர்த்து கொடுக்க
சுதந்திரம் என்பது இதுவா?
இழி நிலை இது

The influence of my Grandfather in my life

ஒருவன் வாழ , குலம் வாழும்

ஊருணி நீர் நிறைந்தற்றே உலகவாம் பேரறிவாளன் திரு
திரு வள்ளுவர்

the greatest influence in my life is that of my grandfather after whom I am named .
He was my maternal grandfather
He worked in Mumbai,Colombo,Nagapattinam and Cochin before coming to Calicut .
As a young boy i had the opportunity to closely interact with him and learn the meaning of life from the viewpoint of a man who has seen it all .
He was matriculate from St Xavier s Palayamkottai (1928)
He brought up his family from a very difficult situation on his Father's death .Got all his brothers employed .
In spite of having gone through tough situations (like losing his job in the prime of his life, seeing two daughters get widowed, losing his youngest teenager son) he had a positive attitude in life .
He taught me that the true joy in life is in giving.
His presence with us was enriching and he monetarily supported us to get a good education .
When I interact with many others ,nowadays,I realize that they behave so pettily because they did not have a grandfather like I had.
He said"enjoy whatever comes in your way,but don't get addicted to it"
Even now I feel he is with me and guiding me .
I have not inherited any property from my ancestors, but got from them a good attitude and a keen sense about life's purpose.
I am grateful to providence for that.
The quote above summarizes his life view

a story of a hurt of long back

one day , ten years back I had visited my parents and returned by bus to Thrissur in the evening.My wife wanted to buy some things and I went with her to a leading famous departmental store of that time .
Since she was wakling around taking things and I was bored, I started examining the scissors kept in one rack.
I traveled a lot by air and I wanted a scissor of a size which I can keep in my suitcase (check in baggage ) without problems.Since the price was high I thought I will buy from some small shop.
Suddenly from nowhere the manager arrived and said the matron had seen me pocketing some small item and he has evidence of it(surveillance camera?.)I protested.
He insisted that I be personally frisked by one of the boys in the showroom.The boy took me upstairs ans searched me while apologising profusely.
Nothing was found on me and the boy brought me down.The manager said "No problem,No problem" and allowed me to join my wife to leave the store
I have never stepped into the store after that.
My only fault was the back of my shirt was crumpled by 3 hours sitting in the bus during my journey.
What kind of people are these?

another father's grief

பிள்ளை மனசு கல்லு

I met recently MV sir who is a senior to me.His wife is in a senior position in a PSU .Both are Engineers.Orthodox family.
He was looking sad.After sometime he shared his feelings.
He has only one daughter and no sons.sent her to college and made her also an engineer.
The girl was working in a software co in another state.
she has done her register marriage last week with a boy from a Semitic religion.
She had promised her parents repeatedly that she will never do such a thing.
At last this has happened.Her parents are nor ready to accept this.
Now he doesn't even know where she is and whether she is still working etc.
Any way what a pity.He also is now not ready to talk to her because he feels he may let out words which both will later regret.
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