Various Aspects Of Inner Rottenness That
Destroys Us
Unless we are alert about the following
aspects in us, we will certainly be unhappy and unwanted by others in life. The
list is endless. I am giving only the prominent points. Most of them are
related to attitude. It is very wide spread also .
1) I
know everything: Apparently many mothers have kept their
children on their lap and given them a message “only you have a brain, others
are fools”. The child, and later the adult follow this. Only the lesson of ‘hard
knocks’ can save them.
2)
I can talk anything: Another
apparent lesson everybody has got from early childhood is “you have a tongue
and a mouth, so you can talk as you like, anything”. Talking requires thinking
and many ‘learned fools’ don’t know this. They have not been corrected at the
appropriate age.
3)
Laziness: RK
uncle, the close friend of my father said, Mr. M (a born rich man) was lazy and
became a pauper because he was lazy. How did it happen? He was having many
businesses, he blindly trusted his key persons, without bothering to verify
actual business situation. In the end he got cheated and died a pauper. He did
not put in the required effort.
Moral:
Do not lend your own mind or alertness to others – Use it yourself; else
be doomed.
4)
Arrogance: Many people nowadays do not know how to behave
appropriately. How to take respect, after giving respect. They behave as if
they have “descended from heaven” and all should kowtow to them.
5)
Fault Finding: Seeing only the worst in others. Always
criticising. Not appreciating. Looking for ways to make others miserable. “How
to put down others?” They drain the energy of others.
6)
Superficialness: Not going into details of anything.
Just look at outside and then start commenting. Not studying. Not
understanding. Not enquiring in depth.
7) Pettiness:
Petty things
interest them. Hearsay, loose talk, gossip etc., interest them more. They see
everything in poor light. They evaluate people by their dress, size of car,
size of house, wealth etc.
8) Not
admitting one’s own mistakes: The
people with this behaviour, never admit their mistakes. They blame others.
Bluff their way out. They never correct themselves.
9)
Poor listening: They always look for opportunities to
talk and cannot ever listen. Never seek to understand other people’s view.
10) Poor follow up: They give many commitments. Never live
up to them. For them “it is just words”.
11) More competition than co-operation: In all their behaviour we can see more ‘I
am better than you’, rather than “how can we work together to achieve the
common goal”. This repels others from them. ‘Do you know who I am ? ’ – they want
to show everyone.
12) Giving
more importance to things rather than to people:
For such people – “Things” are more important than
“people”. Always laptops, cars, bikes, mobile phones etc. are more important.
Not colleagues, spouse, children, friends.
