Various Aspects Of Inner Rottenness That Destroys Us

Unless we are alert about the following aspects in us, we will certainly be unhappy and unwanted by others in life. The list is endless. I am giving only the prominent points. Most of them are related to attitude. It is very wide spread also .

1)    I know everything:  Apparently many mothers have kept their children on their lap and given them a message “only you have a brain, others are fools”. The child, and later the adult follow this. Only the lesson of ‘hard knocks’ can save them.

2)     I can talk anything:  Another apparent lesson everybody has got from early childhood is “you have a tongue and a mouth, so you can talk as you like, anything”. Talking requires thinking and many ‘learned fools’ don’t know this. They have not been corrected at the appropriate age.

3)     Laziness:  RK uncle, the close friend of my father said, Mr. M (a born rich man) was lazy and became a pauper because he was lazy. How did it happen? He was having many businesses, he blindly trusted his key persons, without bothering to verify actual business situation. In the end he got cheated and died a pauper. He did not put in the required effort.

Moral:  Do not lend your own mind or alertness to others – Use it yourself; else be doomed.

4)     Arrogance:  Many people nowadays do not know how to behave appropriately. How to take respect, after giving respect. They behave as if they have “descended from heaven” and all should kowtow to them.

5)     Fault Finding:      Seeing only the worst in others. Always criticising. Not appreciating. Looking for ways to make others miserable. “How to put down others?” They drain the energy of others.

6)     Superficialness: Not going into details of anything. Just look at outside and then start commenting. Not studying. Not understanding. Not enquiring in depth.

7)    Pettiness: Petty things interest them. Hearsay, loose talk, gossip etc., interest them more. They see everything in poor light. They evaluate people by their dress, size of car, size of house, wealth etc.

8)    Not admitting one’s own mistakes: The people with this behaviour, never admit their mistakes. They blame others. Bluff their way out. They never correct themselves.

9)     Poor listening: They always look for opportunities to talk and cannot ever listen. Never seek to understand other people’s view.

10)   Poor follow up: They give many commitments. Never live up to them. For them “it is just words”.

11)  More competition than co-operation: In all their behaviour we can see more ‘I am better than you’, rather than “how can we work together to achieve the common goal”. This repels others from them. ‘Do you know who I am ? ’ – they want to show everyone.

12) Giving more importance to things rather than to people:  For such people – “Things” are more important than “people”. Always laptops, cars, bikes, mobile phones etc. are more important. Not colleagues, spouse, children, friends.